No one starts their dating career with innate experience and knowledge. This is something you have to acquire over time.
Think about it: how would you react if you saw an opening for a job that required one more year of experience than yours? You might grumble and move on; you might grab the opportunity and crush it.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask questions
Some people are naturally inquisitive and can easily ask questions, a skill that helps them on their dating journey. Whether you are an inquisitive person or not, it is important to ask questions to make a connection with your date and learn more about them.
For example, if you are a bookworm and want to know what your dates have been reading recently, or if you are political junkie and would like to hear what they think about the latest Republican primaries, gear your questions around subjects that interest you. This will show that you are interested in learning about them and will help them feel comfortable opening up to you as well.
The top third of question askers are more likely to get a second date, which is why it pays to ask plenty of questions.
2. Take the initiative
Taking the initiative is an important part of dating. It means opening your mouth and talking to people you are interested in, even if it’s awkward or scary at first. It also means being confident enough to ask your date out or to tell them that you’re into them.
Many men struggle with taking the initiative, but it is possible to learn how to take the lead. Just like it is with any new skill, it takes practice to build your confidence and develop a habit of taking the initiative. But it is worth it! If you’re looking to find the right partner for you, taking the initiative will pay off. Just remember to start small and be patient with yourself! Eventually, it will become second nature.
3. Don’t be afraid to say no
Knowing how to say no is an essential life skill. It allows you to put your needs first without hurting others. Whether it’s saying no to your boss, no to a date, or no to your friend, setting boundaries is always good for you and those around you.
Ideally, we’d live in a world where people are able to take an honest no without blaming you for it. But, in reality, many have fragile egos and will blame you for making them feel bad.
The most important thing is to be proactive and to address the situation as soon as possible. This will make it much less awkward and awkward for everyone involved. Be sure to explain the reason why you are declining the request as this will help them understand.
4. Don’t be afraid to ask for advice
It’s important to ask for advice when dating. After all, everyone has different experiences and perspectives. Plus, you never know if the advice someone gives you will be just what you needed to hear.
However, make sure you’re asking for advice from people who are qualified to give it. You want to be able to start your request with something positive about the person you’re asking (for example, maybe they have great leadership style or accomplishments you admire). Then when they give you their advice, it will be more impactful. Moreover, it will be easier for them to bond with you.
Friends can be your greatest wingmen or wingwomen, so don’t be afraid to ask them for help when it comes to dating. Just make sure you let them know that you’re interested in dating, and give them a concise list of what you’re looking for. Also, don’t pester them or be pushy; that’s not going to end well for either of you. Lastly, don’t be afraid to meet new people, either.